Funerals & Bereavement
If you live in South Tonbridge and would like a clergy visit for someone who is dying or just after you have been bereaved please contact the church office or out of hours 01732 353079 (Mark Barker) or 01892 863239 (Sheila and John Perkins) and we will come as soon as we are able to.
If you'd like a member of the pastoral staff at St Stephen's to be involved in the funeral, we would be delighted to help and would be very pleased to talk through funeral service options before you see the funeral director so that you know clergy and church availability. If you see the funeral director first please ask them to contact us before the date is fixed so we can make sure that clergy and/or church are available.
Once the funeral is booked, the person taking the funeral will arrange to come and meet the next of kin to talk through the kind of service you'd like. They might also ask for some details of the person who's died to help prepare a eulogy or tribute.
If you would like the service to be in church (and we strongly recommend this if you are expecting 80+ people) we suggest that the whole service is in the church including the committal so that the party stays together rather than some going to the crematorium. An alternative would be to follow the service with burial at Tonbridge or other cemetery.
We are also happy to take the service in church and to follow it with a prayer at the crematorium immediately after or later. Or we’d be happy to take a service at the crematorium or at a chapel.
For some people it is a good idea to have a family occasion with cremation or burial followed by a thanksgiving service in church later, again, we are pleased to be asked to take the service.
After the funeral, one of our bereavement team will contact you and arrange to come and see you at a later date if that would be helpful. If we can offer support in any other way, before or after the funeral, please let us know.
A group of women who have been bereaved meet at St Stephen’s church at 10 on a Tuesday morning. They are always ready to welcome new people.
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